Golf Widow? Not Me!! Five Tips To Join Your Golfer On His Turf

GUEST POST: This article comes from Catherine Behan from Golf In Love – Bringing Couples Together for Golf, Love and Soul Mating.

I wonder where the term “golf widow” came from in the first place.

I spend a lot of time doing my own thing while my man is on the golf course and believe me, I don’t wear black and mourn!! After going through a couple of seasons away from the game because of a health challenge, I am back playing, though not nearly as often as my honey.

It was my first husband’s passion about golf that got me into the game in the first place. I was 22 and quickly surmised that if I wanted to spend time with him, I needed to take up golf. Fortunately, I LOVED it. As a matter of fact, I became consumed with the game on my own. But I do have him to thank for getting me into golf in the first place.

But golf WIDOW? Yikes! What a stark and awful image. Ladies, if your hubby or main squeeze is spending too much time with golf….I challenge you to an attitude adjustment! Let me let you in on a secret….he is still alive and you are NOT a widow! Ha!

There are ways to reconnect with your man USING GOLF as a tool to build your relationship. Here are 5 tips to help you get out of that widow garb and get out there and FLIRT with your man!

1. Find a friend who is in the same boat and make a plan. Most of us have friends whose life mirrors our own. Surely you know another woman who is spending a lot of time alone while her man golfs. Between you, create a plan to explore golf to see if there is a gateway for you to begin to enjoy the game.

2. Find an instructor who will split a lesson between the two of you. Working in a small group as you are experimenting with golf is really fun. Golf is such a social game and it can be great fun to get together with girl friends to practice before grabbing a bite of lunch. We get together to shop and eat, couldn’t we also putt and eat?

3. Ask for a short game lesson first. Get familiar, really familiar with putting and chipping. There is no reason that a woman cannot excel at the short game. Two cool advantages here: one, men admire a woman who knows her way around the green and two, it sets you up for a great date night. Imagine this scenario: You invite your shocked husband to a putting practice session followed by cocktails or dinner, you can spin a great romantic evening out of this!

4. Join Women on Course. This is the coolest group ever.  I love the nine hole play dates called Dine and Wine.  Women who want to socialize and explore golf are meeting all over the country through this great membership site.  There is an event in San Diego today and I can’t wait to go.  Beginners are more than welcome and you can get all the info you need at the site!

5.  Never call yourself a golf widow again!! Begin to see yourself as a member of the golf community.  If your man LOVES the game, he will love your interest, trust me.  Sometimes guys tease about not wanting “the last bastian of male dominance sullied by female invaders,” but there are plenty of others who are craving your company out there.  As you become more comfortable and confident, he will respond to you with respect.  I love putting contests with my husband.  We frequenty practice together and we both enjoy spending the time together.

Golf Widow?  Not me.  I am a golfer who plays less frequently than my man and I treasure my time with him on the course.  I am carving out a place in golf that is uniquely my own.  Developing my OWN golf confidence, separate from him is making me a better player.  Our golf dates are more romantic because of MY attitude.  I don’t know about you but I LOVE romance and golf dates are so easy once you know a few basics!!

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Do It Together: Retirement, Golf, and Couples

Retirement gives you more time to do the things that you enjoy with your spouse or significant other. One of the best activities to share with your special someone is the wonderful game of golf. Golf will allow you to get outside, get exercise, see new places, and spend more time together. Whether you are both experienced golfers, beginner golfers, or a mix of the two, you will find that golf can be a great activity for the two of you to take part in when you retire.

Exercise is something that you definitely need to add in your life when you get older. Finding fun ways to exercise – like golf – can enable you to exercise without feeling like it is exercise. This can go a long way to helping you do it regularly and exercising together can make it a special time between the two of you. By making golf a regular part of your life, you can get the benefits that come with golf, including maintaining your weight, decreasing your risk of heart disease, and slowing the aging process.

Spending time together doing something fun can help you both to enjoy your life more. And it’s never too late to learn the game of golf. Even if one of you has never even picked up a golf club, it’s a game that can be learned later in life and shared for a lifetime. A few lessons and your beginner golfer will be hitting the links with you and having fun. Make the most of this new time of your life and spend time together doing fun activities, whether it is golf or another activity.

Seeing new places is another great aspect of playing golf together. You can travel all around the country and world and play on many different golf courses together, creating beautiful memories that you will have for the rest of your life. Adding golf to your travel itinerary helps make every trip that much more special and will give you the opportunity to meet new people, see new places, and enjoy a great game on top golf courses throughout the world.

Simply put, retirement is more fun when couples can enjoy the game of golf together. It offers you exercise, fun, challenges, and new experiences that you both will enjoy long into your life.